Labels are restrictive. Because a woman identifies as feminist, we are shocked when she says she is Christian or Muslim. We know these religions are extremely misogynistic. But if we consider it, we would realise that God is love. God is just. Human beings wrote these religious texts, and as such, they were bound to write things in their favour. How many people know you can be feminist and sift away the misogyny written by annoying men in order to focus on God? Yes, you can cherry-pick the bible, on the grounds you are not hurting anyone. Also, God is too big for any group to have the perfect idea of Her/Him/It.
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(I first published this on Bella Naija)
Menelaos Apostolou in his “ground-breaking” “magnum opus” declared that female queerness is an evolutionary trait. “A lot of men indicate a desire to have a partner who also experience same-sex attraction,” Apostolou said to IBTimes UK. He went on: “These kinds of sexual traits are more instinctive. It is a mechanism that has been selected to serve a purpose – to make you reproduce. (…) My argument in the paper is this: A considerable proportion of men desire same-sex attractions in women, and this is one possible reason why many women have such attractions.” He carried out this wonderful, brilliant “research” interviewing 1,509 hetero males and zero queer women.
Continue reading Selective Homophobia Is the New Homophobia
(I originally published this on Bella Naija)
Over time, I have had different conversations with homophobic people. Their homophobia is valid, because they do not understand what it means when people have a different sexuality. The human psyche fears that which it does not understand. Fear happens when we feel something poses a threat to us. We confront it or we escape it – fight or flight. In our bid to fight, we get hostile.
Continue reading Frequently Asked Questions on Sexuality
For someone who has been to a nightclub once (I am not counting the day I went to a karaoke/club/bar and ended up getting lap dances from annoyingly sweaty women), I have a lot to say about nightclubs.
Continue reading Nightclubs Suck! (Why Night Clubs Are Problématique As Fuck)
“Please, I want us to keep it,” Olise had pleaded with his hands clasped on her knees, while kneeling before her like a peon. Derisively, her gaze slowly travelled from his clammy palms to rest on his sweaty face. The disgust he saw in her eyes caused his chest to constrict in anguish.
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Betrayal tastes like vinegar mixed with coal. It sounds like fingertips scratching a chalkboard. Betrayal is when women do not espouse feminist ideals. How does one internalise misogyny to the point of supporting ideas that reinforce one’s subjugation? Continue reading Should We Cancel Women Who Say They Are Not Feminist?
In a same-sex relationship, there is no guy, there is no girl. It is just two humans in love with each other. You love a person’s mind, not necessarily the sex organ.
(Plot twist: Hetero folks are not the only ones who vehemently hold on to gender roles.)
Continue reading Who Is the Guy In Your Relationship?