The title I had in mind at first was “The Fucked-Up Nature of the Human Situation”. I promise this post is not depressing to read. But then…
When you think of it, being in this human form is all shades of messed up for several reasons. Nevertheless, I have decided to share seven reasons here. As you read through, other reasons might dawn on you. Continue reading The Unfortunate Nature of Human Existence
Lagos is stress!
Many things make Lagos a stressful place to live in: bad roads, poor waste disposal system, traffic, urban congestion, rubbish drainage system, etcetera. It happens you can draw one straight line from one Lagos palaver to the other. Urban congestion is linked to the diabolic traffic issue. If Lagos were a brand, I’d sell it like this: Continue reading Dealing with Unfortunate Traffic Situations, Especially In Lagos
A rabbi, an imam, and a pastor walk into a bar and they order for one thing: one bottle of women’s tears squeezed out by misogyny.
Some feminists fucks* with religion, and to the “logical” mind, these two – feminism and religion – do not mix. We know of how several religious texts are hate speech against women. Continue reading On Feminists Who Practice Misogynistic Religions (Can a Feminist Be Religious?)
Labels are restrictive. Because a woman identifies as feminist, we are shocked when she says she is Christian or Muslim. We know these religions are extremely misogynistic. But if we consider it, we would realise that God is love. God is just. Human beings wrote these religious texts, and as such, they were bound to write things in their favour. How many people know you can be feminist and sift away the misogyny written by annoying men in order to focus on God? Yes, you can cherry-pick the bible, on the grounds you are not hurting anyone. Also, God is too big for any group to have the perfect idea of Her/Him/It.
Continue reading “Labels Are Dumb”
(I first published this on Bella Naija)
Menelaos Apostolou in his “ground-breaking” “magnum opus” declared that female queerness is an evolutionary trait. “A lot of men indicate a desire to have a partner who also experience same-sex attraction,” Apostolou said to IBTimes UK. He went on: “These kinds of sexual traits are more instinctive. It is a mechanism that has been selected to serve a purpose – to make you reproduce. (…) My argument in the paper is this: A considerable proportion of men desire same-sex attractions in women, and this is one possible reason why many women have such attractions.” He carried out this wonderful, brilliant “research” interviewing 1,509 hetero males and zero queer women.
Continue reading Selective Homophobia Is the New Homophobia
(I originally published this on Bella Naija)
Over time, I have had different conversations with homophobic people. Their homophobia is valid, because they do not understand what it means when people have a different sexuality. The human psyche fears that which it does not understand. Fear happens when we feel something poses a threat to us. We confront it or we escape it – fight or flight. In our bid to fight, we get hostile.
Continue reading Frequently Asked Questions on Sexuality
(This was originally published on HOLAAfrica.org)
Helen’s right eye twitched when Amaka rushed ahead of her to open the restaurant door. It twitched some more when her date pulled out the chair for her when they arrived at their table. Amaka style, which today consisted of a pair of skinny jeans with a black leather jacket, did not bother Helen. In fact, she found Amaka’s boyish swagger charming; however, her chivalrous gestures sent of an alarm in her head.
Continue reading Sister, Who Is the Girl in Your Relationship?