(This post is an excerpt from my journal entry on June 10, 2019. I thought to share, because why not?)
When it comes to loss and grief, different people cope differently. We must find our own way(s) of coping via trial and error. And the manner of coping should not come from the ego’s desire to defend itself from pain. Ego defense devices are toxic, as they come from an illusion – the ego. Continue reading On Coping with Loss
Nne Ndidi stared at the pulpit as the blond, bulky priest preached with his nasalized tenor. How his conscience allowed him to injure people with his ear-grating voice was beyond her. She was tired of him. How did anyone understand the spri-spri-spri he was rapidly spitting? If only a Nigerian who spoke Ika, or even central Igbo, could replace him!
(Before you commence reading this, I recommend you take relaxing breaths. Inhale for four seconds; hold for one second; gently exhale with your mouth for five seconds; hold for two seconds. As you exhale, allow your muscles to relax. Repeat this five times, or more if you desire. This would calm your mind. And try to forget the things you “know” as your mind engages with what you are about to read.) Continue reading Cherry-Picking Your Reality Is Possible!
All cultures have fairy tales, far-out stories that cannot happen in real life. These stories seek to throw light on different aspects of the society from which they originate. Where religion uses tall tales/myths to explore a culture’s idea of divinity, fairy tales uncover and explain different parts of the psyche. (Archetypal psychology talks more about this.)
In most fairy tales, the protagonist is the hero of the story, which is not always the case in real life. In real life, there are times you play the villain, or anti-hero, in your own story. (The protagonist is the leading character. Villain is “evil character.”) You don’t always have to be the good person in your story, y’know?
“Your age of stagnation is whenever you stop growing. For most people, its when they get married, settle into a routine. You meet someone who loves you unconditionally and never challenges you, or wants you to change. Then you never change.” – Kelsey Jannings in Bojack Horseman.
Minding my business is one of the many ways I love (and care for) myself. 2019 was the best year of the last decade for me. I couldn’t even believe that I’d be in the space I was in. Truth is I had to put in work, and a huge chunk of it centered on mindin’ ma gaddem bidness.
Do you know it is possible for one to hold progressive thoughts without being open-minded? Progressiveness and open-mindedness are mutually exclusive. E.g., being pro-LGBT+ rights does not mean one could be open to the idea of past-life regression. This was the case with me until recently. I have learnt how to bend my mind into “opening” it wide enough to entertain notions most people would deem bizarre. And these thoughts are funny!
The jokes we tell ourselves (in our heads) are the funniest, because we do not have to share them with other people. We get to yank away the chain of correctness that restrain many jokes. We go wild and free.
At times, we “fall in love” with a person, and in our eyes they can do no wrong. Soon, we have sex with them, and in the aftermath of the fuckery, the rose-tinted lenses through which we saw them fall off our eyes. We start seeing their true colours, they become unbearable to us, and two seconds later, we break up with them. It would seem as though the tea got spilled after we fucked it (whatever “it” is) out of our systems.
Have you noticed how people get more love when they are dead? It is like death makes us see them in a new light. Why do we wait until people pass before we show them we appreciate them? Is it that we only love them dead? Continue reading Why Humans Are Necrophiles