Category Archives: SEXUALITY

How LGBTQ+ Rights Intersect with Feminism (1): Lyrics From “Yentl” (1983)

Yentl (1983) explains how LGBTQ rights are interwoven with feminism. Barbra won a Golden Globe for “Best Director” for this movie in 1984. Yes, she directed, sang, acted, co-produced, and co-screenplayed. This movie meant something to her, and she poured herself into it.
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On this post, I’ll share lyrics of two songs from Yentl. To explain how sex/gender and sexuality are interwoven, I will write a review. This is a forerunner to that post. This would give the review some “perspective”.
Here is the first song – No Wonder, and I would love you to read the lyrics. If you can, please, watch the Youtube clips of the movie I have shared.

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The Hustle of Studs, Stemmes, and Femmes (3): Stemmes

Just when you thought the people of the world would not narrow your transcendent self via labels and labeling, they came up with “stemme”. First time I heard the word, I was like:

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“What the flying fuck?!!”

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What to Do When You Have a Girl Crush (For Women, Of Course)

As a public service, I have decided to write this.

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“Oh, my God! Cisi, you won’t believe who talked to me today?” My friend literally screamed at me, as though she was screaming at someone about to disembowel her. Such a fucking drama queen.

In a dry tone, and a forced smile threatening to tear my face into two unequal halves, I asked, “Who?” I might have hooted.

And that was how this friend of mine launched into a one-million-word spiel about a woman she met. Eventually, she asked, “Do you think she likes me? I like her lots.” Continue reading

Types of Lesbians

(Authors Note: Please, this is not a witch hunt. )

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Like vodka, lesbians come in different flavours. One day, it crossed my mind to write about different types of lesbians. This is a guide – yes, see it as a guide – to understand what you feel you should understand. Here goes: Continue reading

The Hustle of Studs, Stemmes, and Femmes (1): Femmes

(If you are reading this, I assume you know what these words – stud, stemme, and femme – mean.)

Being femme is not just about appearance, it is behavioural, too. Femmes embrace almost everything feminine as defined by patriarchy – all those heteronormative attributes: soft, gentle, sweet. A typical stud is easily drawn to femmes. Like moth and light. But there are buts, because some femmes do not want anything romantic to do with studs. They be like, “It would be too obvious that we are dating.”

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For Prejudiced People…

I had put this up on Facebook; however, after looking at it, I decided to put it here. (Chuckles) I have to put this meanness on record. I’m starting 2017 on a shady-ass note. Uh-hmmm… Here is for those prejudiced ass-fucking-holes. Those mo’fuckers that won’t stick their noses in their businesses.

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I was on my own, sipping vodka, and of course, minding my business when breeze blew someone from my past into my present o. (This Whatsapp is a problem.) Continue reading